No points for pants

I would like to say firstly, that my experiences with The PEW, in comparison to what Emma has to deal with, are but mere annoyances that can usually be brushed off. I say usually because it does get harder and harder to bite my tongue, as the list of “annoyances” grows longer and longer.

Like today for example.

Upon picking up my step daughter from school Friday, hubby and I notice her school pants have a hole in the knee. (Later, I find another pair in her backpack, also with a small hole) No problem right? We give PEW $350.00 each month to provide these things for my step daughter.

BUT,

Given the past record of her having school shoes with a big hole in the toe for a month, until I bought her new ones, I decide I will just go get a couple new pairs of pants. It's always good to have school pants right?

Over the weekend, We get 3 new pair of pants, 3 belts, and a pack of little patches to repair the old pants, in case she wants to wear them at home or whatever. All is well.

Then I get an Email. Shes sending back the pants we bought step daughter. I tell her we don't need them here. She says she has four pair of pants for her.

OK, I didn't say anything, but, I know one of the pair of pants are a size four and they show her ankles. I hate that pair of pants. Which leaves 3 acceptable pairs, 2 of which I know have holes (patches now) and cant be worn to school. That leaves 1 pair.

I casually say that I didn't think she could wear the patchy ones, because the school dress code says plain khaki pants only, no embellishments or rhinestones or such things allowed.

She replies with: I didn't realize they had holes I guess. Hmmmm....

Although this was a annoying, I didn't really care.

Then this morning came.

I have had some sleeping troubles lately, but I was in the most deliciously deep sleep ever. I hear my door bell ringing. UGH its some type of solicitor I bet. The bell keeps ringing. Then knocking can be heard. And more bell ringing. Then I hear my father in laws voice calling my name. I jump out of bed, thinking there is a terrible emergency.

Turns out, Step daughter spent the night at his house last night, and he needs to drop her off at school. PEW's directions to him were only that the school is on a street that runs parallel to Transformer (a main street here). He didn't even know the name of the school. I go get some pants and notice, hey, shes already late.

I get in the car with them to show him how to get there, Step daughter is in the back wearing the old pants.

Maybe it was because I had just been woken up abruptly, but it really annoyed me. Not to mention I had to sit in the car for 20 minutes listening to father in law say “I cant believe she drives all this way, every morning.”

“Why doesn't she go to school by her house?”

“Shes got to be spending at least 120 dollars extra a month just in gas”

“Traffic was so bad, Step daughter must have to get up VERY early for school”

“I can't believe how far it is”

and so on, and so on.

Is any of this really a big deal? Nope. Like I said, its just annoying. Annoying that I can't buy things for my step daughter for her to use at PEW's house. Instead of accepting something that step daughter needs for school, PEW refuses it, simply because I bought it.

*sigh*

Michelle

I can categorically say that you are NOT a bigger banana head....

Let me start off by saying, I  do not think every ex-wife is a psycho. I think at one time it was only a small handful. Today, sadly its an ever growing epidemic in the divorce community.

The journey with my husband and his PEW started in 2002. For about 6 months she didn't know anything about me, that I even exisisted. I sat back and heard stories for example: how she invited him to her place for their sons first birthday only for him to arrive there and find 3 days worth of dirty diapers piled up on the floor, the apartment smelling like cat feces and no way of telling when the last time she actually cleaned anything. Or how his son was always sick and looked dirty.

I didn't meet my husbands son until 7 months after we met. At first he was cautious to tell Lisa Ann about me, worried about how she would react. We had no idea how bad it was going to get...

This all started the last 8 years of constant harassment, fighting, stalking, lying, emotional abuse etc. Sadly, we have at least another 9 more years of this. Unless a Karma train goes by and they let me blow the whistle....

We'll talk more on this tomorrow.

Goodnight Tuesday.

Always,
Emma

Introduction

Good Monday to all!

To start this blog we are going to explore the definition of a PEW. (Psycho Ex Wife).

Here are two definitions:

1. Psycho Ex Wife - Urban Dictionary

An unstable woman with a terrible personality disorder who divorces you despite your efforts over more than a decade of marriage to "save things" for her and your children. She then fights to keep the children away from you for no good reason and she abuses the legal system in order to do so because they favor psycho ex-wives, even to the detriment of the children and then relentless torments you even though she got most everything she set out to do... except KILL YOU... yet.

My ex-wife is a psycho. She is so unbelievable a psycho ex-wife that I post blog items of her emails, instant messages, and transcripts of voice mails because no one would believe them with just a simple face-to-face story. This bitch is a PSYCHO EX-WIFE!

Also known as exwife, psyche-ho and crazy ex wife

 

2. Psycho Borderline Ex Wife - Urban Dictonary

 

A woman who is always the victim. A woman who cheats on her husband because he does not provide her with enough emotional support. A woman who uses her children as pawns in support/custody proceedings to benefit herself in obtaining more child support money which she doesn't spend on her kids. A woman who goes through boyfriends every 2-3 months and introduces these boyfriends to her children only to have them ripped away once they find out the true colors of the psycho borderline ex wife. The psycho borderline ex wife is greedy, constantly victimized, selfish and usually a gold digger.

Why does the Psycho borderline ex wife always go through a different boyfriend every month???

Also known as greedy, selfish, golddigger, hypocrite, boderline personality

 

Now, Michelle and I both suffer from a PEW that falls into both categories. Her PEW's name is Jessica, mine is Lisa Ann. We may not have been the ones married to them but we are the victims of Second Wifey Syndrome. It's not easy being the Second Wifey when the PEW does everything in her power to make you out to be the bad guy and the whole reason for why they are "psycho" in the first place.

 

So we would like to welcome you to our journey through life dealing with a PEW. Hopefully at the end of all this a lesson will be learned. Enjoy....

 

Always,

Emma