Water bottles & Panties

Around the beginning of the school year while picking my step daughter up from school, she waved good bye to her coach on the way out and he said, "Bye (step daughters name), don't forget to bring your water bottle Monday!" And he looked to me as if to make sure I heard.
"Water bottle? Are you supposed to have a water bottle for school?" I ask her.
"Yes, my coach tells me to bring one. The teachers don't let you go get drinks of water all the time and I'm really thirsty." She says.
"Does your mom have one for you?" I ask.
"No." She says
So when we drop her off at school the following Monday, I make sure to give her a water bottle full of water. Well, actually its one of our tiny size travel mugs with hearts on it, that my mother sent for her and her brother. Its the one she REALLY wanted to use.
Two Fridays later we get to pick her up from school again. And she has no water bottle. So Monday I give her the other travel mug full of water.
Two Fridays later we pick her up from school again. No water bottle.
"Where are all of your water bottles?" We ask her.
"Well, my momma keeps losing them." She says.
So Monday I send her with the purple water bottle that came with her camping set.
The next time we pick her up, she has the purple water bottle, and also one of the travel mugs. YAY!
And for the next few times we pick her up, she has it.
Then, she doesn't have it so I have to send her with the travel mug.
Then she has the water bottle again.
Then she doesn't have it, so I buy a bottle of water at the store and send her with that, thinking that she will it the next time. But, she doesn't. She has no water bottle Thursday, or the Thursday after that, or when we pick her up Friday.
So I had to buy a new one, and it was surprisingly difficult to find one small enough to fit in the side pocket of her backpack, which is where she likes to keep it.
I asked her where all the water bottles are, and she says that her mom takes them out of her bag to wash them and never puts them back in, and that some are lost.
So we are on water bottle number four, lets see how many more I have to buy before the school year is over!

Also, lets talk about panties.

Every Thursday, we get to pick step daughter up from school, and return her to her house at 8:00PM. I ALWAYS give her a bath. Sometimes her hair smells like a puppy. She has VERY sensitive skin, that needs to be washes with Dove for sensitive skin, and lotioned lotioned lotioned EVERY night. Other wise she gets big red irritated itchy spots, and her skin gets super dry and scratchy and feels like sandpaper, which is often the case when we pick her up.Also, I'm sure it makes bedtime at home much faster and easier if shes already clean.
After her bath, I dont really want to put her back into the same clothes that she wore to school, its just feels icky to me to give her a bath and put her in panties she already wore. Maybe I'm just weird, but thats how I do it. So I give her clean panties, clean socks, and put her in something cozy than can be worn as pajamas. I also put her dirty school clothes (panties and socks too), inside her backpack for her to take home. A few times the clothes have come back to us in her school back pack, but never the socks or panties. She had about 12 pair of panties, and now, there are three. So in about 3 weeks I am going to have to go buy more panties. And probably more water bottles.

Again, its not a big deal, its just panties & water bottles. But it is super annoying. Especially because P.E.W made a big stink about 2 years ago when we didn't return one of step daughters dresses, and she threw a fit and said "It is in the divorce decree that YOU HAVE to return her with everything I drop her off with!" And thats true, it IS in there, but she also is supposed to do the same. Ever since then i have made SURE to return every single little thing she has come over with. And P.E.W does NOT.

She currently has (things we have sent over there and not gotten back):

11 elastic hair bands
1 plastic head band
1 long denim skirt
3 pair of sweat pants
1 long sleeved Bratz shirt
2 T-shirts
1 red sweat shirt
9 pair of panties
9 pair of socks
and the water bottles

Is it sad that I keep track of this?

Also, there is some disagreeing about the length of time my husband gets my step daughter for summer. P.E.W said she was calling and finding out for sure on Monday, and that she would let me know right away how long we get her, and the times we get her for our weekends during summer (which she says will be at 6:00PM Friday - 6:00PM Sunday, and we say its 4:00PM Friday (the time she usually gets out of school) - 7:55AM Monday (when we would usually return her to school).
Its Thursday, and still no word.
I'm just saying...

Michelle